A Little Gratitude

Woman's Day Magazine June 2011

2011-05-13T15:14:00.000-07:00

Here's the cover of the "Woman's Day Magazine" which features the article "Think Like A Man" that I was interviewed for. I was contacted nearly a year ago by the magazine regarding a blog post that I wrote called "The Martha Stewart Complex." I'll repost it later, but it was basically about how I unsuccessfully strived to be a perfect homemaker (I hate that word!) like Martha Stewart. I had just had my first baby and wanted everything to be perfect. Stressful!

The author of the article, Beth Levine, called me about 4 months ago to discuss the article. I have been so excited about reading it. I think the article is amazine, and so true. I'll be blogging about that subject next.

Friday Fun & Photo Shoot

2011-03-25T16:11:00.000-07:00

It's Friday and after a very rainy week and short days at school, I am ready for some fun. My daughter, Ellie and I have been watching way too much "America's Next Top Model," and had a hilarious time today taking photos. I'm such a ham. I thought I'd show off one of my favorite necklaces. It is a 2"locket adorned with a happy-apple-green print and a hand-wrapped freshwater pearl. Every time I wear this necklace, I get loads of compliments. It's a steal at just $24.99. Please contact me to place an order.

Follow Your Goose Bumps

2011-03-17T15:26:00.000-07:00

I just read an article about David de Rothschild. He built a boat out of plastic water bottles and sailed the globe calling awareness to all of the trash polluting our oceans. That is dedication! While reading the article, I wondered what would propel someone to actually do something like that. I mean really, that is a ton of planning and a boat-load of commitment. It takes serious dedication. Finally, towards the end of the article, David is asked what the best advice is that he ever received. David's answer: "My mum and dad taught me to follow my intuition. I'm a big believer in listening to goose bumps - when you feel them coming on, you know you're onto something good."

"Follow your bliss, do what makes you happy, Just do it!" These are all phrases that go through my mind often, but somehow "listen to your goose bumps" made me smile and struck a chord with me. From now on, those tingly bumps will be little arrows to happiness.

How To Get Your Kids To Do Chores

2010-11-19T09:27:00.000-08:00

Today, many kids are overbooked with soccer, piano, karate, Spanish class, homework and more. They don’t have the time to perform the normal chores that were once expected of children. Back in the day, part of being a family was sharing the household jobs. Now, parents are left with picking up after their kids, making their beds and cleaning their rooms. I think we are robbing our kids from learning about not only responsibility and teamwork, but also how to function in the real world. That first year of college is hard enough, but add to that an 18 year old that has never done laundry or emptied a trash can? Yikes!

It’s true, when children are little, it is easier to just “do it yourself” than teach them how to pick up their toys or make their bed. However, you have to see the big picture. Slowly teaching a three year old how to put away his toys is much easier than trying to teach a hormonal, grumpy teenager how to suddenly clean his room. Additionally, with today’s environmentally conscience cleaning products, children are able to help even more (and kids love using a spray bottle).

Here are jobs that I have my children do (depending on their age):

Unload the dishwasher or silverware
Wash kitchen counter tops (I like them to use Mrs. Meyers products which are environmentally friendly and contain no harsh chemicals or smells).
Sweep front porch (not a big deal if it’s not done perfectly)
Wash bathroom sink and counter top
Wash French door windows (large windows are a little tricky)
Vacuum
Wash the dog
Dust their own room

Often times parents don’t know what kind of chores to give their children. They are unsure what a kid is capable of doing. Chores need to be suitable to a child’s age. For example, when emptying a dishwasher, a four year old can help unload the silverware, while a seven year old can put all of the plates and bowls away, and a 12 year old can unload the glasses and cups. Kids aren’t going to do their chores perfectly, but if you show them how to do it and show them what a job should look like when it’s done correctly, eventually it will be worth your time and energy. Additionally, your child will grow up being more productive and responsible.

Medallion Circle Locket Inspirational Necklace

2010-09-15T13:50:00.000-07:00

Loving this necklace! The locket can be customized with your own photo. It really makes a statement and can be worn long or short. Please contact me to purchase paula@alittlegratitude.net

A Rose-colored View

2010-08-02T16:58:00.000-07:00

I've used this summer to do jobs around the house that were neglected during the school year. The "honey-do" list has piled up, so that it's a "just get it done now" list. I've used a critical eye to determine what needs my attention most. We've trimmed trees, raked up old grass, planted vegetables, painted rooms, touched up baseboards, organized closets and scrubbed floors. It feels good to check off the jobs as they are completed, but my eye is now trained to see the negative, rather than the positive. I feel focused on what remains to be done, rather than the beauty and good fortune right in front of me.

I recently read this quote by Jan McKeon, an editor of Better Homes and Gardens Magazine. "Allow time each day to simply enjoy your garden. Don't dwell on the negatives - the weeds, the unfinished tasks, the plants nibbled by rabbits. Instead, focus your eyes on the beauty of details - a newly open flower, dewdrops gleaming in the sun, a butterfly winging from bloom to bloom." The words remind me to strike a balance in maintaining our house and property, yet find joy in the amazingly tall Cypress trees, the giant pink Dahlias and the home where my children play, create and love.

Working From Home, Playing From Home

2010-07-19T17:40:00.000-07:00

The kids are home for summer vacation!
Yippeee! Yahoooo! Horaayyy!
I still have to work... from home, with three kids surrounding me and expecting me to entertain them.
Boo. Hisssss. Cryyyy.

Finding time to work while kids are on summer break is like trying to go for a hike in high heels - frustrating, irritating and you just end up throwing your pumps at something.

I don't want to sit at my computer, typing away while trying to focus as I am interrupted incessantly. Heck, I want to jump on the trampoline, make sand castles on the beach, sit by the pool and watch movies. However, part of me does want to work. I like writing, I like creating, I like meeting with grown ups and discussing interesting things. Yes, I like earning money!

It's all a part of the constant balancing act that confounds us work-from-home moms each day. How to "fit it all in" is the question. Fortunately, my dilemma was kindly answered today by my beautiful friend Mary Kelting. After working diligently this morning, Mary picked me up at home, drove me to the pool, bought me a margarita and brought balance to my day. THAT is what friends are for.

Holly Farrell Artist Nostalgic Paintings

2010-06-04T10:10:00.000-07:00

I really love the work painted by Canadian artist Holly Farrell. She takes every day items, that you probably loved at your grandmother's house, and makes them interesting and inviting. Looking at her artwork makes me want a cozy, warm hug from my beloved grandma.

A French Touch Salon Opens In San Luis Obispo

2010-05-22T12:20:00.000-07:00

Merci Beaucoup to Patricia for an amazing facial at her new gorgeous salon. While living in France, I discovered that beauty is an integral part of the French culture. Women are expected to take time to care for themselves...it's not considered pampering at all, but more a matter of pride. The facial treatment I received at A French Touch salon left me not only feeling refreshed and pretty, but also recommitted to taking care of myself. Take care of yourself.

Inspirational Graduation Necklace on Sale

2010-05-18T16:02:00.000-07:00

The "Life Is A Journey" necklace and "Dream Big" necklace make the perfect meaningful graduation gift. Both items are 20% off until May 24, 2010. There are a limited number of these necklaces,

so place your order soon.

Life Is A Journey Necklace

The word "Journey" hangs with a gray mother of pearl solid unity circle and hand-wrapped freshwater pearl on a 16" black cotton cord. Included tag reads: “Life is a journey, not a destination”

Price: $22.99, on sale for $18.29

Dream Big Necklace

The word "Dream" hangs with agray mother of pearl solid unity circle and hand-wrapped freshwater pearl on a 16" black cotton cord. Included tag reads:.“Follow your bliss.” –J. Campbell

Price: $22.99, on sale for $18.29

Harmony Cellars Now Selling A Little Gratitiude Inspirational Jewelry

2010-05-12T14:23:00.000-07:00

I had the pleasure of delevering ten gorgeous necklaces to the beautiful Harmony Cellars Winery yesterday. The winery is in a perfect spot along Hwy. 1 on the California Central Coast. The town of Harmony is located between Cambria and Cayucos and has a population of just 18.

Harmony Cellars Winery produces award-winning wines and offers a scenic destination for wine tasting, shopping and relaxing. Harmony has a beautiful picnic area overlooking rolling hills. My family has enjoyed picnicking there - My husband and I can sip wine, while the kids explore the gorgeous gardens.

Eternity Pearl Necklace For Mom

2010-05-07T11:49:00.000-07:00

Happy Mother's Day

"Motherhood: All love begins and ends there."

–Robert Browning

Mom's Eternity Necklace
This necklace represents the eternal bond between mother and child with the gray Mother of Pearl circle surrounding one or two freshwater pearls, one for each child. Price: $22.99 plus S&H

**Please specify number of pearls when ordering**

-pearls measure 3.5 mm-4.5 mm
-pendant measures 2"
-black cotton cord measures 16" long
-lobster clasp

Inspirational Necklaces and Wine Charms

2010-05-05T13:26:00.000-07:00

Recently mailed a variety of sparkling wine charms, wine bottle charms and a beautiful necklace to New York. As you can see from the photo, all of my items are packaged and ready to give as a gift.

Quote of the Day by Anne Lamott

2010-04-28T09:32:00.000-07:00

"I've heard it said that every day you need half an hour of quiet time for yourself, or your Self, unless you're incredibly busy and stressed, in which case you need an hour. I promise you, it is there. Fight tooth and nail to find time, to make it. It is our true wealth, this moment, this hour, this day."

-Anne Lamott

That's What Friends Are For

2010-04-15T09:51:00.000-07:00

Last night I went to a friends birthday party. We laughed, we cried, we shared stories, we drank wine and we ate nachos. Today I feel happy, almost giddy, with a positive outlook on life. Why? It's actually scientific. While being with my girlfriends, my brain released the feel-good hormone oxytocin which lowers blood pressure, protects against dementia and ruduces the risk of depression. Not only is girl-time fun, it's actually healthy. So, get out there - even if it's out of your comfort zone. Spend some time with friends, spend some time on yourself. Happy Birthday Erin!

A Little Film About Amy Bakes Cupcakes

2010-04-07T11:58:00.000-07:00

Amy Bakes Cupcakes is owned by a friend who makes the most delicious cupcakes baked by hand and made to order. Amy uses quality ingredients like organic chocolate, homemade vanilla extract, and local seasonal fruit and spices. She perfectly describes each cupcake as "a tiny present just for you." Without a doubt, all of Amy's cupcakes are little treasures that are thoughtful, unique and fun.

I love Amy's new short film. It expresses her personality and really makes me want to eat a cupcake! You can view it here:
A Little Film About Amy Bakes Cupcakes

Me Time - For Me

2010-03-18T14:18:00.000-07:00

Our lives are busy. Sometimes, I feel that I’ve completed an entire days work - and it’s only 9:00 in the morning! In a world of go-go-go, it’s important to stop-stop-stop. That’s what I did a couple of weekends ago at Replenish Massage & Skin Care in Paso Robles, Ca. Replenish is now selling A Little Gratitude jewelry and it was my pleasure to hand deliver ten beautiful necklaces. Of course, since I was there, I had to indulge in a little pampering.

Heidi, the Esthetician and co-owner has set up the spa beautifully. My shoulders relaxed as soon as I walked thru the door. I loved the zen-ness of the decor. As for my treatments, Heidi did a great job in shaping and waxing my eyebrows perfectly. My facial was divine. I absolutely loved the lemongrass scented hot towels she used to open my pores, the warm rolled towel she placed under my neck and the lip exfoliation that left my lips kissably soft.

Are you in need of Me-Time? As women, we give so much to everyone else. When we take time for ourselves, we are better for it. "Replenish" is the perfect name for a spa because I truly felt I had replenished my energy, soul and spirit after spending a little time on myself.

Ideas for the Greater Good - Last, but not least - Number SEVEN!

2010-03-10T17:33:00.000-08:00

This is a continuation of "7 Ideas for the Greater Good." I got these ideas from a brochure that my husband brought home from an event he went to at UC Berkeley. The brochure had been buried on a bulletin board for over two years.
I LOVE THIS ONE:

7. Allow yourself to experience awe and wonder.
When you do, you'll gain a deep sense of unity with the world, and of our common humanity.

These words are so powerful. Last weekend, my family joined two other families on a trip to the snow. We stayed in a beautiful log cabin, ate delicious food and played in the perfectly powdery snow. In our group, was an adorable 4 year old boy. As all the other children were racing down a hill on sleds, this little boy was lying on his back looking up at the sky with his mouth wide open. I noticed him and looked up to see what could be so interesting. It was beautiful! The snow falling gently against the dark grey sky - I was in awe. I would of never looked up, if it wasn't for that little boy. A perfect gift.

Whisked Away For the Afternoon

2010-03-07T13:11:00.000-08:00

My friend Aimee called me at 7:50 a.m on Friday just as I was frantically hurrying my kids out the door for school. When I briskly answered the phone, Aimee asked what I was doing for the day. A million things ran through my head. Really A MILLION things. It was my day to do everything that I didn't get done the last two weeks. When she asked me that simple question, I really didn't know where to begin so instead I said "why."

My kind and thoughtful friend had been intending to do something special for my birthday for the past couple of months and today was the day for my something special. The word "not today" was on the tip of my tongue when I took a deep breath and out came "Yes!" I immediately felt my shoulders relax as my brain anticipated some girl time with my friend.

After much shuffling of kids, packaging jewelery and paying bills, I found myself ALONE and driving to San Luis Obispo. I was so happy that I said "yes" to Aimee. I was so glad that Aimee thought of me and asked me to spend time with her. We had a delicious lunch at Palazzo Giuseppe and played with makeup at Sephora. Just writing about our day now, makes me feel more peaceful. Saying "yes" to an opportunity almost always leads me to a good place.

7 Ideas for the Greater Good - Number SIX

2010-02-25T15:31:00.000-08:00

This is a continuation of "7 Ideas for the Greater Good." I got these ideas from a brochure that my husband brought home from an event he went to at UC Berkeley. The brochure had been buried on a bulletin board for over two years, and I was so glad to uncover it and reflect on the list again.

6. SLOW DOWN
Savoring good experiences can heighten positive emotions.

Slowing down and being in the present moment is something I strive to do. It can be really hard in this fast paced life, but worth the effort. I like to go for a run (or walk) a few times a week, and I try to focus on my body and the world around me. It takes effort to train your brain, so I concentrate on feeling my feet hit the ground, my lungs fill with air and the quiet that surrounds me. It's bliss.

The Martha Stewart Complex

2010-02-23T16:05:00.000-08:00

I was just interviewed by Beth Levine, an author for Woman's Day Magazine. She interviewed me about an article that I wrote called "The Martha Stewart Complex." Very exciting! Here it is. You can also check out my other articles at: Ezine.com

The Martha Stewart Complex, by Paula Mathias Fryer

The Martha Stewart Empire began around the same year I had my first baby, (at least that's when I became aware of Martha Stewart and her beautiful, meticulous world). This was unfortunate for me because it nearly ruined my first few years as a new mommy. Why? It set an unachievable standard for women who thought we could do it all.

I went from working girl in San Francisco with a career as an Events Planner with up-to-date clothes and money to burn - to - a stay at home mom in the burbs COVERED in spit up and sweat and scraping by on one income. Ouch!

I searched for a way to gain control of my life again and found it one day at the grocery store checkout. There it was, a glossy magazine with photos of beautiful Swedish furniture, an article on "Cleaning Toilets 101", and a photo shoot of the quaint nanny's quarters of a famous publisher. "I can do this," I thought to myself. "I can be the best wife, mother, maid, volunteer, and chef ever!" I purchased the Martha Stewart Living Magazine and quickly sent in my $19 check for a year's subscription. Big mistake.

I rapidly developed a bad case of the Martha Stewart Complex and I was exhausted, unhappy, chubby, and failing miserably at being perfect. The pressure was immense, the fun was infinitesimal. My lemon meringue pie was lumpy, my husband's shirts looked like they were ironed by a monkey, my knitted cap was crooked, and I could never make a hospital corner adequately. Worse of all, the fun and excitement had evaporated from life, just like the glaze l'orange sauce that I attempted to pour over my Poulet Parfait.

I had a beautiful daughter who did not care if her toys were arranged by theme, or her blanket was made of the finest cashmere. She wanted to explore, get dirty, look at books, play Polly Pockets and most of all, be with her mom and dad. It was time to get rid of Menacing Martha and have some fun again!

Ideas for the Greater Good - Number FIVE

2010-02-22T14:13:00.000-08:00

5. Help others
Altruistic individuals are healthier, happier, and they live longer. Did you know that helping others triggers the same brain activity as the gratification of personal desire?

Ideas for the Greater Good - Number FOUR

2010-02-21T13:01:00.000-08:00

4. Teach children how to be happy.

Really, I'm at a loss at what to write for this one. I think children are innately happy, and it's the grown-ups who teach them about pressure, hurrying and competition. Any comments? www.greatergoodparents.org

7 Ideas for the Greater Good - Number THREE

2010-02-20T13:12:00.000-08:00

I have loved the feedback from my continuing list of "7 Ideas for the Greater Good." Keep it coming! Idea number three is so significant in today's world of "it's all about me."

3. Practice Empathy.
Trying to understand other people's emotions and experiences is vital to strong and healthy relationships.

In the last year, I have made an effort to practice empathy while driving. We tend to turn ugly and angry at someone who cuts us off, drives too slow, or seems to not be paying attention. It is frustrating, but I try to put myself in the driver's shoes. Of course, maybe they really are just a jerk, but probably it is a sleep-deprived mom with a screaming baby in the back (been there), or a trepidacious teenager learning to drive (been there too), or a nice grandma who is cautiously driving to the grocery store (will be there).

7 Ideas for the Greater Good - Number TWO

2010-02-19T17:10:00.000-08:00

For people who know me, they know that I love to laugh, and do so often. Number two of the Greater Good Science Center's List of Goodness is:

2. Laugh
When you do, your heart rate and blood pressure drop and your muscles relax. And because laughter is contagious, it might just calm the bodies and raise the spirits of those around you.

7 Ideas for the Greater Good - Number One

2010-02-18T14:27:00.000-08:00

About two years ago, I received a brochure from The Greater Good Science Center located in UC Berkeley. I loved the message on the brochure and stuck it on my bulletin board. Over the years I layered photos and magazine clippings on top of it. Recently, while cleaning off my board, I re-discovered the understated brochure and read through it again. On one side of the brochure is a list named "7 Ideas For the Greater Good." I read them over and wanted to share them one by one. Here's number One:

1. Give thanks. Keep lists of things you and your family are grateful for. Anything can go on the list, no matter how large or small - people, places toys, events, nature.

On a lazy summer day last July my kids and I were having a leisurely morning in bed when I asked them to tell me what they appreciate - what they are grateful for. I got out my journal and wrote down what they said. I love to go back and read their words. It reflects what kind of people they are and what kind of adults they will be.

Martha Beck's Words of Wisdom

2010-02-05T11:21:00.000-08:00

Martha's Quote of the Day

"The ultimate lesson of regret, the one that will help guide you into a rich and satisfying future, is this: Every time life brings you to a crossroads, from the tiniest to the most immense, go toward love, not away from fear."

The Telephone Talker Multi-Tasker

2010-02-05T11:00:00.000-08:00

When my daughter was a toddler, she would pretend to talk on the phone by walking around furiously, waving her arms and simulating a vibrant conversation. It dawned on me that she was mimicking me. Unconsciously, while talking on the phone, I was also unloading the dishwasher, making the beds, checking my email, even cleaning the toilets. I was a chronic Telephone Talker Multi-Tasker!

In the last six months, I have made a conscious effort to sit down, old school-like, and direct my attention to my telephone conversation. I pretend that there is a short windy cord connected to my phone that keeps me in place. It's amazing what you can hear and learn when you are actually focused on a conversation!

Girl's Weekend In Santa Barbara

2010-01-11T14:28:00.000-08:00

I spent the weekend in Santa Barbara with my beautiful friend Deb. It was a breath of fresh air. What a fun, inspiring, breathtaking place. I love a vacation where you can park your car and walk anywhere you want to go.

Deb and I ate great food, drank a little wine and had lots of girl talk mixed with tears and giggles.

I have to give a shout out to the hotel we stayed at. The Hotel Virgina was centrally located, beautifully decorated, very clean and the breakfast was great.

The Amazing Clarisonic Skin Care Brush

2010-01-07T16:38:00.000-08:00

I started using the Clarisonic skin care brush about 4 months ago, and have really noticed amazing results. My skin is softer, my pores are smaller and it's like my skin glows a little! It's expensive at nearly $200, but can replace a facial, or two. The Clarisonic is made by the same company who makes the Sonicare® toothbrush.

Here's what they say about it: "Sonic technology first changed the way we clean our teeth, it's now changing how we cleanse our skin. The sonic frequency moves Clarisonic's soft, gentle brush back and forth at more than 300 times per second, thoroughly clearing pores and skin surface."

2009

2009-12-11T12:30:00.000-08:00

In the next couple of weeks we are planning for so much - always looking ahead - Christmas, festivities, birthdays, traveling, gift exchanges, holiday parades, class cookie parties, the list goes on and on and on. However, I feel the need to wistfully look back at 2009 and be grateful. I am thankful for a healthy, happy, busy year.

Washing a Pottery Barn Cranberry Sectional Slipcover

2009-11-20T14:57:00.000-08:00

I know this is not normally what I write about in my blog, but I thought this might be good information for some of you moms out there with the popular Pottery Barn Sectional. I love my Cranberry-colored sectional, but after three years, three kids and three dogs, it was looking dingy and faded.

I washed the slipcovers about one year ago, and the result was not great - a little faded. I was afraid to wash it again because I really love the deep red of the couch. I went online and looked for tips on washing the slipcover and found information on washing it with fabric dye. There were lots of ideas that wouldn’t work for me - soaking the covers in the bathtub was one tip. No thanks! I didn’t want a red tub. One idea was to use cranberry juice in the wash, but I didn’t think that would be a deep enough color. I also wasn’t sure if it was even a serious suggestion.

I decided to go for it and try dyeing the slipcover my own way. I figured it would either turn out great, or I would have to buy a new couch. Being an optimist, I really hoped for the first result. Thankfully, I was right. Here was my strategy for my top loading washing machine:
1. wash covers on gentle and remove them before spin cycle so they are very wet.
2. boil a pan of water and add dye to dissolve. I used Jacquard iDye in Crimson.
3. let washing machine fill with water and add dye. Let machine agitate for 30 seconds to mix in the dye.
4. add slipcovers to water.
5. Soak for at least 15 minutes and agitate every few minutes to keep the dye even.
6. after soaking, let machine drain and rinse.
7. restart cycle and add mild detergent. I used Ecos Laundry detergent from Costco.
8. dry gently on low heat until covers are just damp.
9. iron and put cushions on while still a little damp for a better fit.

Last tips: I washed the seat and back cushions at home (one or two at a time), but used the laundromat for the main slipcovers.

Good luck!

Time For Some Meditation

2009-11-12T16:50:00.000-08:00

I know that meditating is beneficial. It reduces stress, strengthens the immune system, helps to control anxiety, and much more. It sounds so easy to do - relax, be quiet, focus on yourself...what could be simplier? However, meditation takes work. With all of the noise and business that surrounds us, it is actually difficult to shut it out and it is most challenging to quiet your thoughts. It seems like such a paradox to me.

I've found a website and podcast that has proven very useful in helping to quiet my thoughts and have a few minutes of meditation. The site is called mythoughtcoach.com. It is lead by Stin Hansen and, although there is a membership charge, many of the meditations are free. Some of the titles are: Anxiety, Health and Fitness, Pregnancy and Sleep. Give it a try.

What To Do With Old Medicines

2009-11-11T10:43:00.000-08:00

Wondering what to do with old medicines?

I recently organized my medicine cabinet and found lots and lots of expired prescriptions. I had read that flushing pills down the toilet was harmful to the waterways and our ecosystem, but I didn’t just want to throw them in the trash. Real Simple magazine had a great tip for safely getting rid of “the goods.” The magazine suggests mixing the pills with coffee grounds, cat litter or sawdust and throwing them out with the garbage. “This will keep them away from kids and pets and prevent harm to fish and other wildlife habitats. Apparently, the exception is highly addictive drugs, such as Percocet and OxyContin. For those, visit smartxdisposal.net.

You Want It? Write It Down!

2009-10-22T14:59:00.000-07:00

I was recently inspired to write down what I wanted for my life in my journal. However I didn't just write it as goals, I wrote it as if it were really happening at that present moment. It felt exhilirating.

I really believe that to get what you want, you have to know what you want. By writing my goals, as if they were happening, I was visualizing and feeling my future. It was as if I could hear the kids playing on the beach of our Hawaiian resort and actually feeling content to lay side by side with my husband soaking up the sun.

Its been several months since I wrote the "mental picture" in my journal, but I find myself re-reading my entry over and over. Each time I read it, I have a feeling of happiness and relaxation.

Blackberries by the Bay

2009-08-16T13:31:00.000-07:00

A neighbor told me about a secret spot by the bay where blackberries are plentiful. She had just picked 5 lbs! I went yesterday, and although my bounty was not as plentiful, it was a beautiful day and very serene...until an 80 year old bald man nearly ran me over. He was on a big kind of skateboard/surfboard with a paddle that he used to push himself along MY peaceful walkway. After nearly squashing me (and my berries) he yelled at me and said if I got in his way again, he'd run right into me! He was so ridiculous, that I just laughed and yelled "thank you for your consideration."

Summer Time

2009-07-09T19:59:00.000-07:00

Why am I so busy? What happened to the lazy days of summer? Between work, finding childcare, soccer camp and swim lessons, I'm exhausted. Now I know why moms could not wait for school to start!

Tranquil Horses

2009-05-13T17:11:00.000-07:00

Our neighbors brought over their horses to let them graze. It's a win-win situation. Their horses get fed and our grass gets mowed (the fertilizer is an added bonus). The fire department will be very happy that we will get it done in time.

The horses are beautiful and calming as they methodically take giant bites of the lush delicacy. I could watch them graze in the tall golden grass all day long.

Living In The Moment - On Vacation

2009-05-12T20:06:00.000-07:00

I was recently given the extraordinary opportunity to spend a week in Paris with my oldest daughter. It was a true gift and a dream come true to share my favorite city with my daughter. We had an itinerary planned, left a lot of room for relaxing, walking and of course, eating. We luxuriously slept in every morning and began our day of sightseeing every day around 12:00. It was a joy not to be rushed. Seeing landmarks such as Notre Dame, the Eiffle Tower and the Louvre through my daughters eyes was inspirational. She was so excited to see works by Van Gough and Monet - artists she studied in school. I was extremely proud of her.

About three days into the vacation, it occurred to me that I had been enjoying and relishing every second of the vacation. I was living in the present moment without even having to concentrate on being centered. It felt so good! The last few years of my life has been so focused on my kids, work, money, home-ownership - thoughts and worries that swirl in my head constantly. Contemplating beautiful art, learning about history, spending time with people I love, and focusing on myself burst the haze I normally live in.

Now I've returned home and to reality. I'm back to my life filled with carpools, work and multi-tasking. I'm grasping to maintain my vacation mentality. Living in the present moment was such a relief, like gulping a breath of ocean air. I had forgotten how great it felt, but I'm happy that I'm still capable of it.

Time To Play

2009-04-16T14:36:00.001-07:00

Often, I have to make a conscience decision to play with my kids. Ludicrous, but true. Cleaning the house, earning money, writing in my blog, reading a book, often take precedent over playing with my kids.

I have three kids and they always want to play with me. I'm so lucky! How can I forget to play? Playing is so much fun and liberating. My favorite thing to play is soccer. If we can't go outside, we shoot goals inside - right down our slippery hallway.

I also love the board game Sorry! I loved it as a child and would spend hours challenging my mom. Now, my daughter is a willing participant. You never know who will win!

Gotta go Play!

Save on Washing Machine Soap

2009-04-16T14:29:00.000-07:00

My friend and colleague, Erika gave me a tip on washing clothes - Use Less Soap, or even None at All! I could not believe it would actually clean my family's dirty, smelly, often stained clothes, but it actually works. I started using just a quarter of what my detergent tells me to use. Guess what? The clothes are just as clean as they were when I used the recommended amount. Amazing! Erika told me that the amount of soap residue left on clothes from just the first wash, last for several washes. I'm saving money from using a lot less soap, plus it is a bonus for Mother Nature. Seriously, try it!

Today

2009-04-06T17:04:00.000-07:00

Today I…

Got three kids ready for school
Carpooled to elementary school
Dropped preschooler off
Worked at legal office for 3 hours
Picked up preschooler
Went to post office
Made lunch
Raked front yard
Planted flowers and watered
Swept walkway
Helped preschooler to ride bike
Wrote blog for friend
Online chat with husband
Found dog watcher for long weekend away
Greeted older kids after school
Chatted about their day
Contacted teacher on progress report
Watched “Oprah” on TV

Now I’m going to:

Fix chicken tacos for dinner
Help kids with homework
Help husband clean up kitchen
“Twilight” party with girlfriend (Yippeee!)
Lots of red wine
Go to Bed and be ready to do it all over again.

Whew! It's amazing all the things we do!!!

Frugal Fryer's Fabulous Finds

2009-03-21T11:11:00.000-07:00

I love finding a good bargain. Have you shopped at VONS lately? There are some really great deals.
Cuties - $4.99 for a 5 lb. box
Apples - $1 for a pound
Avocados - $1 each
Capri Sun - $1.50
Extra Gum - buy one get one free

Google is offering tips on saving money at google.com/tipjar. It's a great site that lets users submit money-saving tips. Categories include family and kids, food, finance and shopping. Users can vote on their favorite tips. Here's one sample:
"Give a gift of a service instead of an item. For new parents, give an evening of babysitting as a gift. If you know pet owners, offer to take care of their pets when they travel. Offer up some lawn care as a gift to a new homeowner."

Happy Saving!!!

The Martha Stewart Complex

2009-02-25T12:56:00.000-08:00

The Martha Stewart Empire began the same year I had my first baby, (at least that's when I became aware of Martha Stewart and her beautiful, meticulous world). This was unfortunate for me because it nearly ruined my first few years as a new mommy. Why? It set an unachievable standard for women who thought we could do it all.

I went from working girl in San Francisco with a career as an Events Planner with up-to-date clothes and money to burn - to - a stay at home mom in the burbs COVERED in spit up and sweat and scraping by on one income. Ouch!

I searched for a way to gain control of my life again and found it one day at the grocery store checkout. There it was, a glossy magazine with photos of beautiful Swedish furniture, an article on "Cleaning Toilets 101", and a photo shoot of the quaint nanny's quarters of a famous publisher. "I can do this," I thought to myself. "I can be the best wife, mother, maid, volunteer, and chef ever!" I purchased the Martha Stewart Living Magazine and quickly sent in my $19 check for a year's subscription. Big mistake.

I quickly developed a bad case of the Martha Stewart Complex and I was exhausted, unhappy, chubby, and failing miserably at being perfect. The pressure was immense, the fun was infinitesimal. My lemon meringue pie was lumpy, my husband's shirts looked like they were ironed by a puppy, my knitted cap was crooked, and I could never make a hospital corner adequately. Worse of all, the fun and excitement had evaporated from life, just like the glaze l'orange sauce that I attempted to pour over my Poulet Parfait.

I had a beautiful daughter who did not care if her toys were arranged by theme, or her blanket was made of the finest cashmere. She wanted to explore, get dirty, look at books, play Polly Pockets and most of all, be with her mom and dad. It was time to get rid of Menacing Martha and have some fun again!

PMS Rants and Raves

2009-02-19T16:07:00.000-08:00

How many over-reacting emotions, crazy thoughts, and foolish actions can be attributed to PMS? When is it PMS and when is it just a poor personality trait? Am I PMS-ing, or am I just a crappy person? These are the questions I find myself asking at this moment.

Today, my emotions have run the gamut from super sensitive to passive aggressive. I've felt exhausted, irritated and impatient. My brain is running at a snails pace; making any thinking difficult. Last week I felt fit and healthy, exuberant even. Today I'm fat with bad skin.

I want to whine. In fact, I was going to start this blog complaining about making dinner tonight. I mean really...cook dinner every night?! I didn't sign up for this. It's really hard thinking about what to make for dinner EVERY single night. I want someone to make dinner for ME. I don't want to think about what's in the freezer or cupboard, or what I need to pick up at the grocery store. Today, the task of figuring out what to have for dinner seems impossible. Unfortunately, I have 3 children looking at me with big blue eyes and asking "what's for dinner?" Actually chocolate chip pancakes sound really good.

My question is...when do you know that you are just being bitchy versus your hormones throwing a rave in your body? Web MD says this: "Common symptoms of PMS include:

Bloating
Breast tenderness
Weight gain
Aggression
Trouble concentrating
Headaches/backaches
Food cravings/overeating
Fatigue
Tearfulness
Irritability
Anxiety
Mood swings and/or depression

Yes, Yes and Yes. Thank you.

It's Time to Recycle

2009-01-21T13:34:00.000-08:00

My family has always recycled by using the barrels given to us by our waste management company. We never received any money back, but felt good about recycling. When my husband and I were newlyweds, we lived in San Francisco. One morning a week, we were awakened by the locals going through the neighbors recycling bins to recover any precious recycling items. They were up at 4 a.m. rummaging around and earning money. Pretty clever.

Now, my children have decided that they want to earn money by taking our recycling to the local plant. It may be a reality check for them to see how much is needed to earn even $1, but I think it will be a good experience for them. They can take care of the planet and earn a little money for the Dollar Store (to buy more junk!)

I recently came across an article from Real Simple Magazine. They had some great tips for recycling that I wanted to share:

Aerosol Cans: These can usually be recycled with other cans, as long as you pull off the plastic cap and empty the canister completely.

Crayons: Send them to the National Crayon Recycle Program (www. crazycrayons.com), which melts down crayons and reforms them into new ones.

Crocs: The manufacturer recycles used Crocs into new shoes and donates them to underprivileged families.

Frugal Fryer Fabulous Finds

2009-01-08T11:25:00.000-08:00

Okay, so I'm turning 40, and YES, I DYE MY HAIR! Now that I got that out of the way, I want to tell everyone about a great product. It is Clairol's Nice 'N Easy Root Touch Up. It works great in between coloring hair - even if you have highlights. I don't know how they do it, but in just 10 - 15 minutes grays and roots are blended away. It's really amazing and for only $5 - $8 it is a great way to save.

A New Year, A New Decade

2009-01-08T09:29:00.000-08:00

I like giving a slogan to each year. Naming a year gives me something to aim for. I must of said "2008 is going to be great" at least 200 times last year. I remember feeling a sense of excitement last New Year's Eve. I believed in my heart, that the year was going to be full of joy and accomplishments. My husband and I did a vision board together (okay, I coerced him a little), but it was memorable, and gave us a positive image of our future. 2008 really was a great year.

This year feels different. There doesn't seem to be the same excitement in the air. We're feeling the pinch of the economic crunch. Jobs are scarce, just like extra income. Our small town newspaper is running about 3/4 of a page in the employment section. Two years ago, it was at least 4 or 5 pages long. Everyone is being frugal. I've always been prudent, and sometimes teased about it. Now I'm just blending in with the rest of the penny-pinchers.

I've been thinking about a slogan for 2009. "2009 - really, it's fine." "2009 - at least it's benign." "2009 - so divine." None of those are working for me. They are kind of depressing, actually. Instead, I've decided to name my next decade. After all, I am turning 40 in two weeks.

Naming a decade is no small matter. It's a commitment, like hair color or Botox. A friend of mine turned 40 recently, and her "campaign" was "good Lordy, I'm forty." To me, that sounds debilitating. I want to embrace my forties. I think I'm going to go with "The Fabulous Forties." It's the frame of mind I desire to embrace. I want to be fabulous, feel fabulous and of course, look fabulous.

More on Worrying

2008-12-30T11:17:00.000-08:00

The article I wrote on "Imagining the Worst" has been well received. I think it has struck a nerve with many people as we are all worried about the economy and our own financial well being. I've reworked my original article with additional information and thoughts. You can also find it on: http://groovybabyblog.blogspot.com

I recently saw an article about the benefits of not worrying. Not worrying has been something I've worried about for several years. I spent many, many years in knots over money, relationships, pregnancy, interior decorating, siblings, unemployment and more. I had entire conversations with myself about how terrible things were and how they were bound to spiral into catastrophic depths. I imagined bankruptcy, death, firestorms and irreversible choices of kitchen paint colors. I would talk myself into any disaster.

Recently, I've realized that what I imagine is usually much worse that what actually happens.In other words, all the energy I wasted playing horrific imaginary scenes in my head, was just that, wasted energy. That energy could of been placed towards actively working to solve my problems, while still enjoying the present moment. I spent hours using energy, creating stress and feeling bad about events that hadn't happened, and probably never would. What a waste of time! Author, Eckhart Tolle said, "Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose."

In fact, worrying creates stress which can manifest itself in many damaging ways. For myself, worrying caused impatience with my children and husband, a constant sense of anxiety, and even health issues like dizziness and tiredness. Worst of all, worrying and stress are the ultimate cause of aging - creating frown lines, crows feet, bad skin and more. All the expensive face creams and anti-aging concoctions in the world can't, suppress the wrinkly results of stress.

Time is what it took to retrain my brain. Shutting off those bad thoughts was a great effort, and continues to be. I exercise my brain, when I feel worried or stress, by forcing myself to focus on the moment and talking myself through whatever I'm worrying about. For example, with three children, I'm always striving to get somewhere on time - school, soccer, music class, etc. When I feel the worry creeping up to choke me, I take deep breathes and remember that everything will be fine. What is, is. Nearly 100% of the time, by the time I arrive to my destination, I feel better, I'm not yelling at my kids, and no one has even noticed that I'm a little late, because they are too.

Give Yourself A Time-Out

2008-12-12T19:09:00.000-08:00

I always find myself counting to my kids… “1…2…” Usually by 2, the one who’s been threatened with a time out, says irritably “okay, okay, Jeeeezzzzz mom.” I don’t understand why they think a time out is so terrible. I would love a time out. As soon as someone got to “one,” I’d be ready to go. “Yippee! I get a time out!" It would be great replying to my kids with“you don’t like tonight’s dinner? Fine, I'm going to time-out!” or “You’re going to throw a tantrum because you can’t watch more Zac and Cody? Great, give me a time out.”

Time-out for grown ups are actually a very good idea. Research shows that just three minutes of an adult time-out can seriously lower stress, boost your mood and improve your mind. Try this (as recommended by UCLA’s Mindful Awareness Research Center (marc.ucla.edu):

~ In a quiet room, stand, sit upright, or lie in a comfortable place.

~ Close your eyes and notice what’s happening in your body. Do you feel agitated, stressed, etc.

~ Breathe slowly and deeply for a minute. Don’t worry about thoughts that may be drifting in your mind – that’s normal.

~ Listen to the sounds around you. Notice the silences and breathe.

On The Cover of A Magazine

2008-12-03T15:04:00.000-08:00

I'm a proud mama today. My kids are pictured on the cover of the Central Coast Family Newspaper. It's a really great local paper that includes useful information for local families and businesses. Thank you to Mary Kelting for taking the photo and Stephanie Shehan, the Editor for choosing our photo.

Imagining the Worst

2008-12-01T15:53:00.000-08:00

I recently saw an article about the benefits of not worrying. Not worrying has been something I've worried about for several years. I spent many, many years in knots over money, relationships, pregnancy, interior decorating, siblings, unemployment and more. I had entire conversations with myself about how terrible things were and how they were bound to spiral into catastrophic depths. I imagined bankruptcy, death, firestorms and irreversible choices of kitchen paint colors. I would talk myself into any disaster.

Finally, about two years ago, I read Eckhart Tolle's "A New Earth." One thing Tolle said that really stuck in my brain was that in essence, what you imagine is usually worse that what will actually happen. Imagine that! I spent hours using energy, creating stress and feeling bad about events that hadn't happened, and probably never would. What a waste of time!

Time is what it took to retrain my brain. Shutting off those bad thoughts was a great effort, and continues to be. However, without a doubt, I feel freer. A weight has been lifted. The weight of worry. My mom always said "things usually work out for the best." Of course, she was right. Moms always are.

Christmas Photos By the Barn

2008-11-13T14:09:00.000-08:00

A few months ago, my friend and photographer extraordinaire, Mary Kelting, came up with a great idea to use our little red barn as a background for her yearly Christmas photos. Before we knew it, we were decorating the barn with dainty white lights, a freshly cut holiday tree, bales of hay and an amazingly beautiful wreath. Aimee Lithwin was instrumental in putting together the details of the decorations. The day was uncharacteristically hot and we were all sweating as we trimmed the tree. A memorable morning.

I love Mary's style of photography. She is so talented at capturing a child's spirit and personality. Thank you, Mary, for amazing photos that will last a lifetime. www.marykeltingphotography.com

Scary Good Deals this week

2008-10-29T13:04:00.000-07:00

There are some amazing deals on food this week that I just had to share.

RALPHS: 8 Hour Sale on Thursday, Oct. 30th only:

Capri Sun .99 for a box of 10

Tombstone Pizza $1.99

Oscar Mayer Hot Dogs $1.50 each

Avocados .88 each

VONS:

Gala Apples .88 lb.

Red Grapes .99 lb

Saturday, Nov. 1 only: Betty Crocker Cake Mix .59 and Yoplait 8 packs $2.99

If you're still looking for a Halloween Costume, my friend Holly recommended Castaways Thrift Store in Morro Bay. She was just there and said they have lots of cheap costumes and ideas for Halloween.

La Familia Pumpkin Patch

2008-10-27T10:31:00.001-07:00

On Sunday I took the kids to La Familia Pumpkin Patch on Los Osos Valley Road. We had such a good time. It was a beautiful day and the kids had a ball (despite the look on Charlie's face) finding their way through the maze and picking out their Halloween pumpkins.

Is the Economic Crisis Just What We Needed?

2008-10-16T09:33:00.000-07:00

The last two weeks, have been like a big clonk on the head to most Americans. We have been spending money that we never had and it is finally biting us in the butt. I am guilty of it. When we bought our current house, we took on a mortgage that was out of our comfort zone. However, since the bank was more than happy to give us the money, we thought we could afford it. After all, the bank should know, right? Wrong!

Many are putting the blame on banks, middle class Americans, poor Americans, BIG company executives, etc., but I blame the 1980's TV Show "Lifestyles of the Rich & Famous." Every week Robin Leach showed us what it was like to have a load of money. We gazed upon 24k gold chandeliers, staggering fleets of Lamborghinis and Rolls Royces, and bathroom fixtures that cost more than most people make in a year. Suddenly our Buick didn't look so great, our fluorescent kitchen light looked cheap and our rusty bathroom faucet was disgusting. We realized what we didn't have, and then had to have it, whatever the cost.

Now we are all learning the lesson that our grandparent knew, but we refused to believe. My grandma saved everything in plastic and secured it with a rubber band. I'm beginning to stock pile my rubber bands. "Champagne wishes and Caviar Dreams?" I say "Corona whims and potato chip aspirations." In other words, live simply and be happy.

Frugal Fryer's Fabulous Finds #2

2008-10-08T11:01:00.000-07:00

My friend Leah, who owns Fiona Bleu in Morro Bay, gave some great tips about buying Halloween costumes. She wrote "Here's a money saving tip for Kids Halloween costumes.If you have looked online it is so pricy plus you pay shipping!! Plus this way you are being First. I went to Merry Go Round in Slo (their new location is by Applebee's) and found a Brand new mermaid costume for my 2 yr old, it still had the tags on..only $20!!It's a little big on her and i know she'll wear it for dress up play a lot so it's a deal! Then we went to the Goodwill on Higuera in Slo and they have a ton of Halloween costumes for kids and big kids too!! My 5 yr old boy found a skeleton costume that he loved!! and I loved the price only $5! !They also had some new in package wigs and accessories too! My advice is to shop early for the best deals!! Happy Halloween"

Aimee also reminded me about our friend Karen Graham, who is a licensed Esthetician and great at shaping and waxing eyebrows. She is a true bargain at only $10 for an eyebrow wax. She also does facials that are amazing and half the price of most salons. Call Karen at: 704-9105.

VONS:

Pears 3 lbs. for $1 AMAZING Bargain!

Gala apples: .88 per lb.

Betty Crocker Fudge Brownie Mix: .79 (they are good too)

Ralphs:

Green grapes: .88 lb.

Cantaloupes: 10 lbs. for $10

BAD BARGAIN: Has anyone else noticed how Dreyer's Ice Cream got a lot smaller, but is the SAME price. What's up with that?

Happy Shopping and please leave a comment!

What's Your Mantra?

2008-10-07T10:41:00.000-07:00

"All that we are is the result of what we have thought." -Buddha

I have visualized my life's goals since my early 20's. Back then, I called it "setting goals for myself." After much contemplation, I would decide on a distinct goal, imagine it and figure out how to achieve it.

One of the greatest experiences of my life was working for Disneyland in Paris after graduating from college. Two years before, I was studying in France and took a bus tour that passed the massive site where EuroDisney was being constructed. It was barren, muddy and cold. I remember looking out the bus window, thinking to myself "I will work there someday. That is what I want to do." For two years, I pictured myself working there, traveling, and making international friends. That job changed my life because it was where I met my husband of nearly 15 years (the photo is of us two years ago at our reunion in Disneyland Paris).

My best friend Deb has known me for 20 years and has witnessed my thoughts become reality. She recently wrote the following to a friend: "My friend, Paula always always always wanted to be married by a certain age, wanted a house, dogs, then children by 30. Guess what? She has all of these things in the time line she gave herself. Thoughts become things."

Deb wanted to set her own goals for her life. I suggested she name what she wanted. Perhaps some people don't know what they want, or just don't know how to say what they want. I say, shout it at the top of your lungs!!! Be concise, clear and make them all positive. For example:

I want:

1. to be independently successful

2. to be philanthropic.

3. to earn at least $5,000 per month

After you have listed what you want, make a movie in your head visualizing your achievements. In this scenario, my "movie" would include running a business that is lucrative. I can see myself sitting in my home office, confident and professional. My business would include an aspect that touches the community and makes a difference in people's families. In my "movie" I have a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment. My "movie" runs through my head often. I can actually feel myself being in that situation.

Need more proof that this works? For years I imagined my dream house. It was a big ranch house on a corner lot, surrounded by trees on a large piece of property. Guess what? I live in that house. The one I visualized was brick and mine is wood siding and stucco, but I can live with that.

Frugal Fryer's Fabulous Finds

2008-10-02T15:16:00.000-07:00

My friends tease me that I can be cheap. Admittedly, I do enjoy a good bargain and am always searching for ways to save money. Instead of resisting my "frugal" ways, I have decided to embrace them and share some of my tips and knowledge. After all, with the economy in the pits, we can all benefit from a little extra cash.

I hope this will become a forum for all of us Los Osos patrons to share ideas, discounts and bargains. If you have any info. on local stores, restaurants, whatever, please scroll to the end of this article, click on "comment" and enter your hot tip.

VONS: Did you know our sorry little Vons is getting a facelift? It will soon have hardwood floors, a florist, and an entire new look to bring it into the new millennium.

-Right now they have baskets full of "clearance" items that they are trying to get rid of. I bought pull ups for $5, dog treats for $1.75 and cereal for $1.75.

Other weekly bargains include:

-Red and green grapes for .88 per pound

-Jennie-O Lean Ground Turkey is buy one get one free.

RALPHS:

-Gala Apples 2 lbs. for $1

- Russet Potatoes - 2 lbs. for $1,

-Campbell's Soup - 4 cans for $3

Last tip for the week - my friend Erin told me that from Monday thru Thursday, Round Table has a large 2 topping pizza for just $10.99. Guess what we're having for dinner tonight!

Happy Eating and don't forget to leave your shopping tips in the comment section.

In The Moment

2008-09-25T14:35:00.000-07:00

Worrying about the economy, home prices, and our own finances feels overwhelming. Today Charlie and I went outside and found a beautiful white spidery seed. We watched it blow in the wind and chased it around the yard. After catching it, we settled

in the hammock watching the trees move while we sang our own imaginary songs. Time stood still.

"Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence."

-Eckhart Tolle

Seven Deadly Zins

2008-09-22T15:33:00.000-07:00

"Seven Deadly Zins" was the winner of the First Annual Salzman Vineyards wine tasting party. The winemaker's website describes our fav as having "A vibrant, sweet bouquet of raspberry jam, molasses and cinnamon toast that evokes the senses of carefree youthful nights." "Carefree youthful nights?" That explains a lot!

Congratulations to Jessica and her husband for bringing the winning

bottle and receiving A Little Gratitude's Wine Bottle Necklace!

Thank you to Holly and Larry for hosting a memorable evening. We can hardly wait for the next one!

Mom's In Motion

2008-09-22T11:17:00.000-07:00

Saturday morning was glorious as I spent some time running, walking and talking with a great group of women. We all participate in an organization called Mom's In Motion. The founder, Jamie Allison, joined us for the beautiful run in Montana de Oro. She started the club just seven years ago, and it's now up to 5,000 members. Jamie was an inspiration to me because she had a vision of beginning a business that fulfilled her need to exercise, meet people and be philanthropic. She stressed the importance of making time for yourself, which so many busy women put last on their agenda. As the leaders of our households (you know we are!), we are constantly fulfilling the needs of our families and all the responsibilities that encompass a busy household. Thanks to Jamie, and our fearless local leader Liz, for giving us the encouragement and venue to take care of ourselves!

Liz, our team leader, is really great at motivating. I made her this necklace that fit her personality and drive perfectly. It says "Passion, Strength and Focus." It's great for any athlete, or Wogger (walker/jogger), like me. This necklace is not on my website, but please feel free to contact me, if you're interested in purchasing a necklace at: paula@a-little-gratitude.com.

Too Skinny Gwinny

2008-09-18T09:57:00.000-07:00

I adore the Oprah Winfrey Show. It can be inspiring, funny, and informational. However, yesterdays Oprah got me talking on my soap box. Gwyneth Paltrow's new "super-body" made me really think about how women view their bodies and what is labeled beautiful in society.

Gwyneth works out two hours a day, six days a week with a personal "exercise genius". Oprah absolutely ogled over her body, like it was what all women should strive for. The time, money and dedication needed to achieve Gwyneth's body is ludicrous. To get her sinewy-look Gwyneth has a climate controlled workout room full of custom exercise resistance bands that work her muscles while stretching them. So, why is Gwyneth's body beautiful to people if it is, for the most part, unachievable? Is it really beautiful? I found it a little unworldly, in an alien sort of way.

As a mom of two young girls, I want more role models who are healthy and happy. Wouldn't it be nice if we weren't so obsessed with "food" and "working out", but just living a life full of healthy exercise, playing hide and go seek, jumping on trampolines, and nourishing our body when it's hungry?

Cute Babies and Pretty Candles

2008-09-15T14:00:00.000-07:00

I had the privilege of babysitting my bff's 4 month old today. Little Zane is so sweet and has a laugh that is pure goodness. Aimee, Zane's mom is such a good friend. We can talk a blue streak on any subject from politics to lip gloss. Aimee's husband, Jerry, is great and a really good contractor. If you need your bathroom remodeled, call Jerry!

These candles smell wonderful and make a perfect gift. One tag says

"gratitude," the other says "dream" and both tags include a hand-wrapped fresh water pearl. If you would like to order a candle, please email me at:

paula@a-little-gratitude.com

Soccer and Shots

2008-09-13T15:44:00.000-07:00

Starting last Saturday, I became an official soccer mom. It's a hard pill to swallow. I always associated "soccer mom" with the kind of mom who throws away her own life for one dedicated to her kid's social calendar. That's not me! While loving my kids, I also value my own time and make it a priority to take care of myself and have fun doing it. Having said all of that... Soccer Saturday is Spectacular! We get to see friends and neighbors, spend quality time with our kids and be outside getting lots of exercise and fresh air. It's better than I imagined, and I have a new appreciation for the proverbial "soccer mom."

I was so happy and excited to get new head shots taken. It's something that I have wanted to do for a very long time. Expert photographer, Mary Kelting was kind enough to take photos of me a few weeks ago out by our little red barn. I was happy with the result. Of course, being a woman, I picked apart my crows feet (I prefer laugh lines), and the gray roots that I put off dying for just a little too long, but overall I'm really pleased with the photo. Thanks Mary!

Lastly, I wanted to introduce a new product to my company, A Little Gratitude. A few people had requested that I make key chains for them. It seemed like a great way for a daily reminder to enjoy the moment. I have made a few of them so far, and have been very well received. The key chains can be purchased on my on line store at the Etsy site.

Welcome!

2008-09-09T12:14:00.000-07:00

On Sunday our family decided to take a short road trip to Harmony Cellars Winery where my good friend Holly works. Harmony is located between Morro Bay and Cambria. The town has a population of 18 and is adorable. The kids played outside, while Stuart and I sipped wine and ate cheese. - Coastal living at it's best!

I wore a necklace that I recently designed. I love that it is so simple, yet flows nicely. It also looks really modern with a pair of jeans. I named it "Circles of Appreciation." A lot of my customers want to say "thank you" to a teacher or friend, and this is a nice way to do it.